Social Media is a wonderful invention that you can use to keep in touch with long-distance friends, update your world on your personal developments and inspire you daily. However, for some people in can only bring issues with self-esteem, fear and drama. Here’s a guide to clearing out your social media’s to have the most inspiring and calm experiences.
The first 3 steps on this guide is about removing or unfollowing people online. Removing a Facebook friend or un-following someone can sometimes be an anxiety inducing task however keeping the wrong people on your feed may cause more harm than good long term. I used to be very nervous about what I shared on my personal social platforms like Facebook because of what people might say or comment. After purging my personal social media of people who made me feel like that means I can post freely and without judgment.
1. Remove any Colleagues, Staff or Bosses
It’s too easy to add new staff on Facebook or Instagram with the prospect of a new friend to follow. In my experience though, social media can get ugly when things turn sour at work. It’s best to keep those two worlds separate! My rule is that if I would hang out with them outside of work (and I trust them) then I follow / friend on social media. If you can’t say you wouldn’t see them outside of work then purge them today.
They may judge you based on what you post (even if what you post is considered ‘vanilla’ to you). If you mention you don’t like dogs and have side-eyes from the dog-lovers in the office. Where you work, there might be channels in place to complain about these issues, but isn’t it easy to not give the enemy ammunition than it is to deal with things once they’ve attacked you?
You never know who might ‘rat you out’ for what you post on social media. Obviously, you shouldn’t post anything negative online, but after a bad day at work, you just might have a moan that’s considered defamatory against your company and there goes your job! Unlikely? Yes. Possible? Yes.
2. Remove Any Ex’s
Sometimes I want to look up an ex and just confirm with myself that I’m doing better than they are – but then I remember I’m 27, not 17. If you’re holding onto ex’s for unhealthy reasons them let them go digitally today. This will be so good for your mental health no matter the reason you still had them. Getting over someone or letting go of pettiness will make you a stronger person, I promise.
If you’re still friendly with ex’s then that’s a different story but make sure your current partner is cool with it as they may not feel comfortable saying they aren’t.
3. Remove ‘Friends’ You Wouldn’t Talk to in the Street
If I’m dithering about removing someone on social media, this is my number one rule I come back to. If you literally wouldn’t stop to say hello then I recommend you un-follow them today. I find it’s a great question to see if you are actually invested in that person or just trying not to be rude but un-following them.
I’ve been using this rule for a few years now and have NEVER had any kind of questions or retaliation. The likelihood is strong that if you wouldn’t stop for them, they wouldn’t stop for you and the relationship just isn’t there.
4. Remove Any Social Media Accounts That Make You Feel Negative.
A very good friend of mine recently quit social media as she found that the world she had created around herself to inspire her to lose weight and get healthy actually made her feel lesser due to their perfect bodies. This was upsetting to me as she’s a wonderful amazing person but this community was making her feel bad due to her ‘normal’ way of living.
We all know social media pictures are a highlight reel in an otherwise average life however scrolling a feed every morning full of perfect angles of perfect bodies can make you feel shame for not being perfect yourself. Remember that you don’t see the 29 pictures they took with the imperfect angles, the shots when they just get out of bed or the ones from at the start of their journey.
Everyone is on a ladder to success so don’t compare your first step to them at the top of the ladder. If an account is making you feel bad about yourself then unfollow them today.
5. Finally, Go Private Online
Finally, make sure you don’t get caught back into the same digital mess as you did before. Set your social media accounts to private and unsearchable to ensure you aren’t going to be clawed back in. If you don’t want to be unsearchable, consider changing your name to your first name and middle name so you can still be found but colleagues and ex’s won’t know where you search for you.